How to Be a Real Man

Character, duty, standards and the things nobody sat you down and explained.

The BRO Code. What to do, what not to do, and a few laughs on the way.

The business trip isn't the problem. Coming home is.

Four nights away rarely hurts a marriage. The first hour back can. How to leave, travel and walk back in without paying for the trip twice.

GuideCorporate WomenNina CastellanSep 25, 20266 min

Going back after the kid years starts with one good sentence

You don't need to defend the years at home. You need one clean sentence about them, current skills, and the nerve to negotiate like you belong.

Ask BRO

What should I wear to this?

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GuideSelf-Employed MenMarcus ValeSep 25, 20266 min

Your first helper is probably an employee, not a 1099 guy

Calling him a contractor doesn't make him one. How to hire your first set of hands without handing the IRS and your insurer a reason to come knocking.

Delicious.com — Nine thousand recipes and a plan for tonight

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Corporate Men6 min read

Walk into the raise conversation with a number, not a feeling

Most men lose the raise before the meeting starts. Build the case on paper, time it right, and the nerves mostly take care of themselves.

Poll

What was your first ever job?

GuideCorporate WomenNina CastellanSep 25, 20266 min

The working-mom system is mostly decisions you make once

Willpower runs out by Wednesday. A few boring decisions, made once and shared with your husband, carry the rest of the week.

GuideSelf-Employed MenMarcus ValeSep 25, 20266 min

Before you pay for leads, call the people who already paid you

When the phone goes quiet, the cheapest work you'll find is sitting in your old invoices. Most guys skip straight to buying leads instead.

Names.com — The name is the first thing you sell

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GuideCorporate MenMarcus ValeSep 24, 20266 min

Staying out of office politics is how honest men lose

Refusing to play isn't neutrality. It hands the room to whoever plays dirtiest. How to win on the level instead, without selling a thing.

Quiz

Is your money actually in order?

Six questions. No email required, no sales pitch at the end.

GuideCorporate WomenNina CastellanSep 25, 20266 min

Stop apologizing to your team, and don't start barking

There are two ways to get leadership wrong, and you've probably tried one. The fix is plainer than either, and it starts with your next email.

GuideSelf-Employed MenRay OkonkwoSep 24, 20266 min

Quarterly taxes and the one rule that ends the April ambush

Four payments, one safe harbor rule and a second bank account. That's the whole system, and it keeps April from eating your truck payment.

Ask BRO

Rewrite my CV so it actually gets read

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GuideCorporate MenMarcus ValeSep 24, 20266 min

Your first 90 days as a boss start with quitting your old job

The skill that got you promoted is the one most likely to sink you. How to spend three months becoming the manager, not the backup.

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GuideCorporate WomenNina CastellanSep 25, 20266 min

Your promotion gets decided in a room you're not in

The ask matters less than what your boss carries into the calibration meeting. Write that page yourself, and write it months early.

Poll

How many days a week are you actually training?

GuideSelf-Employed MenRay OkonkwoSep 24, 20266 min

Why $45 an hour is a pay cut when it's your own truck

The rate that feels rich the day you go out on your own can leave you broke by April. Do this math before you quote another job.

GuideCorporate MenMarcus ValeSep 24, 20266 min

The promotion goes to the guy people already follow

The decision about your next role gets made in rooms you're not in. What gets said there depends on how you treated people for the last year.

Coconut.com — Tell us when. We find where the sun is.

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GuideMoneyDean ShawSep 24, 20266 min

The captain's license is the cheap part of running charters

A six-pack license costs a year of sea time and a few hundred dollars. The boat math decides whether you ever get paid.

Quiz

Does your wardrobe actually fit you?

Five questions, honestly answered, and a plan for the next two weeks.

Life5 min

Belonging isn't a feeling, it's a standing appointment

Fitness6 min

Train like a Sardinian shepherd when you've got kids and a job

Ask BRO

Give me something to do with my kids this weekend

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GuideMoneyDean ShawSep 24, 20266 min

The dream job test is what it pays in February

Smokejumper, fishing guide, luthier. They're real jobs with real paychecks, as long as you judge the whole year and not the best week.

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Life5 min read

Nobody's watching, and that's exactly the point

Character isn't decided in the crisis. It's decided in four unremarkable seconds at a self-checkout, and you've had a few thousand of those.

Poll

Where does your phone charge overnight?

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