Marriage

Building one that lasts. Communication, money, faith, conflict and keeping the friendship alive for fifty years.

The BRO Code. What to do, what not to do, and a few laughs on the way.

Do's & Don'ts: Husbands Do's & Don'ts: Wives

Men's, Women's, Family & Date NightsForty-plus ideas for each, an idea spinner, and how to host one that people still show up to a year later.Spin for ideas Make Memories on PurposeTraditions by season, a year-of-memories planner, one-on-one days, grandparent adventures and the records your kids will keep.Plan the year

GuideCal BrennanNov 5, 20265 min

How to talk about intimacy without it becoming a trial

Most couples have this fight at 10:45 p.m., already hurt, with nobody listening. Move it, and you change how it ends.

Plan a Year of Date Nights in One Sunday Afternoon

From the Marriage archive

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GuideNina CastellanSep 23, 20265 min

How to Apologize to Your Husband and Actually Mean It

GuideMarcus ValeSep 23, 20266 min

How to Apologize to Your Wife and Mean It

GuideCal BrennanSep 23, 20266 min

The Rules That Keep a Marriage Argument From Turning Into a War

GuideMarcus ValeSep 23, 20265 min

Forty Date Nights Under Twenty Dollars

GuideCal BrennanSep 23, 20266 min

Ten Conversations to Have in Your First Year of Marriage

GuideRay OkonkwoSep 23, 20266 min

Joint Accounts or Separate, and How to Not Resent It

Marriage on video

Worth an hour of your evening

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Dr. Matt TownsendMay 19

7 Rules to Handle Conflict in Marriage

Steph Anya, LMFTOct 30

Couples Therapist: 5 Steps to Repair Conflict in Your Relationships | Eight Dates

Better Together on TBNOct 17

How to Handle Conflict in Marriage

The Gottman InstituteJan 9

Handle CONFLICT like a PRO : Gottman’s Secrets to Happy Relationships

Jocko PodcastAug 29

How To Build A Strong Marriage - Jocko Willink

TEDFeb 4

3 ways to build a happy marriage and avoid divorce | George Blair-West

Jordan B Peterson ClipsJul 19

The Key to a Happy Marriage That Most People Forget About

TEDNov 10

Relationship Advice from 50+ Years of Marriage (w/ The Gottmans) | How to Be a Better Human | TED

Steve TV ShowSep 10

The Secret to A Successful Marriage! 💍 II STEVE HARVEY

Dr. Henry CloudAug 17

Building Your Marriage on a Secure Foundation | Dr. Henry Cloud

Steph Anya, LMFTOct 25

Couples Therapist | 10 Tips For Good Communication!

Couples AcademyJun 26

How To Keep Communication From Ruining Your Marriage

Marriage HelperFeb 2

How To Build Better Communication With Your Spouse

Live On Purpose TVNov 5

How To Improve Communication In Marriage

Marriage HelperApr 9

Top 3 Tips to Fix The Communication In Your Marriage

The Marriage FoundationAug 12

7 Tips to Improve Communication in Your Relationship

Marriage quizzes

Quiz yourself, then your friends

All quizzes

GuideCal BrennanSep 30, 20266 min

The yearly marriage check-in and the ten questions worth asking

Do it six months from your anniversary, in a diner booth, with a pen. The questions matter less than the rules you set before the coffee comes.

GuideNina CastellanSep 30, 20266 min

Thirty date nights at home, sorted by how tired you are

The plan you made at noon dies at 9:14. So stop planning ambitious nights and start planning for the tired people you'll actually be.

Ask BRO

Give me something to do with my kids this weekend

Ask it

GuideNina CastellanSep 29, 20267 min

The Saturday pickleball date works if nobody coaches

Mixed doubles with your spouse can be the best hour of your week or a silent drive home. The difference is almost never the paddle.

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Set the Lines With Coworkers, Exes and Screens Now

Almost nobody decides to wreck a marriage. They just let one friendship get warmer than the one at home. Name the rules while it's still easy.

Poll

How often do you see your closest friends?

GuideNina CastellanSep 23, 20266 min

Your Marriage Needs a New Project Now That the Kids Are Gone

The quiet isn't the problem. The missing joint venture is. What to build together in the long stretch after the last kid moves out.

GuideCal BrennanSep 23, 20265 min

Book the Sitter First and Figure Out the Date Later

Romance after kids isn't a mood you wait for. It's a standing appointment, a note in a lunch bag, and one kindness nobody had to ask for.

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GuideNina CastellanSep 23, 20266 min

Don't Walk Past Your Spouse Without Touching Their Shoulder

A hand on the back in a crowded kitchen takes two seconds and does more for a marriage than most date nights ever will.

Quiz

Is your money actually in order?

Six questions. No email required, no sales pitch at the end.

GuideMarcus ValeSep 23, 20265 min

Romance in the Middle Years Is Built at 9 P.M. on a Tuesday

Anniversary trips don't save a marriage. The forty minutes after the dishwasher starts does. Small habits, done badly, done anyway.

BRO TakeMarcus ValeSep 23, 20266 min

Marriage Is Still the Best Bet a Young Couple Can Make

Waiting until you are "ready" is the most expensive habit in modern romance. Here's the case for the covenant, and what to do in year one.

Ask BRO

Pressure-test my business idea

Ask it

GuideJosh HalloranSep 23, 20266 min

Serving Your Spouse Without Keeping Score

The small, unglamorous things you do before anyone's awake are what a marriage is actually made of. Most of us are doing the wrong ones.

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GuideCal BrennanSep 23, 20266 min

The First Year After the Kids Leave Is Harder Than Anyone Says

The quiet isn't the problem. The missing job description is. What to do with the twenty years you just got handed back.

Poll

Where does your best time with your kids happen?

GuideCal BrennanSep 23, 20266 min

How to Listen to Your Spouse When You'd Rather Fix It

Three sentences in, you already know the answer. The answer isn't what she's asking for, and offering it anyway costs you more than you think.

GuideRay OkonkwoSep 23, 20266 min

One Paycheck, Two Jobs, and Nobody Keeping Score

A single-income house runs on two full-time jobs. Here's how couples keep both of them honest, funded, and respected.

CancerDefying.com — The research, protocols and reading in one place

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GuideCal BrennanSep 23, 20265 min

Get The Phones Out Of Your Bedroom And Off Your Table

A cheap alarm clock, a charger in the kitchen, and a rule you both agreed to. That's most of it. The hard part is the first two weeks.

Quiz

Does your wardrobe actually fit you?

Five questions, honestly answered, and a plan for the next two weeks.

6 min

How to Know You Need a Marriage Counselor and How to Find One

5 min

Book Premarital Counseling Before You Book the Venue

Ask BRO

Rehearse the raise conversation with me

Ask it

GuideMarcus ValeSep 23, 20265 min

Anniversary Traditions Worth Keeping Every Single Year

Dinner and a card isn't a tradition. Build rituals that stack up, survive the bad years, and still mean something at twenty.

Coconut.com — Tell us when. We find where the sun is.

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6 min read

What Couples Married Fifty Years Do That The Rest Of Us Skip

Fifty years is about 18,260 days. Nobody gets there on chemistry. Here are the small habits that carry the ones who are still friends.

Poll

Where does your phone charge overnight?

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Marriage

How to talk about intimacy without it becoming a trial

You choose your spouse again at 5:45 on a Tuesday

She Started Thawing the Turkey on Saturday and I Laughed

She Knew the Quiet Meant Trouble. I Thought It Meant Peace.

She Fixed My Dinner From Across the Room

Plan a Year of Date Nights in One Sunday Afternoon

From the Marriage archive

How to Apologize to Your Husband and Actually Mean It

How to Apologize to Your Wife and Mean It

The Rules That Keep a Marriage Argument From Turning Into a War

Forty Date Nights Under Twenty Dollars

Ten Conversations to Have in Your First Year of Marriage

Joint Accounts or Separate, and How to Not Resent It

Worth an hour of your evening

Quiz yourself, then your friends

The yearly marriage check-in and the ten questions worth asking

Thirty date nights at home, sorted by how tired you are

The Saturday pickleball date works if nobody coaches

Set the Lines With Coworkers, Exes and Screens Now

Your Marriage Needs a New Project Now That the Kids Are Gone

Book the Sitter First and Figure Out the Date Later

Don't Walk Past Your Spouse Without Touching Their Shoulder

Romance in the Middle Years Is Built at 9 P.M. on a Tuesday

Marriage Is Still the Best Bet a Young Couple Can Make

Serving Your Spouse Without Keeping Score

The First Year After the Kids Leave Is Harder Than Anyone Says

How to Listen to Your Spouse When You'd Rather Fix It

One Paycheck, Two Jobs, and Nobody Keeping Score

Get The Phones Out Of Your Bedroom And Off Your Table

How to Know You Need a Marriage Counselor and How to Find One

Book Premarital Counseling Before You Book the Venue

Anniversary Traditions Worth Keeping Every Single Year

What Couples Married Fifty Years Do That The Rest Of Us Skip